hi all. It's me again. In the interim, I've been away, and got myself online messaging, lots of women, and developing my online profile. Going to the gym, and generally getting myself together. One of the things I did was to reword my profile, and really get the language right. Show that I am fun, friendly, and positive, with a life of my own, and lots of things going on.
From my music hobbies, to travelling, horseriding, socialising with my buddies, and playing football,, going to the gym, I detailed it all and laid it out there. I also took the time to take and upload some decent pictures which showed this clearly so that people can see for themselves. The pictures took ages, but I am pleased with the results.
After doing all that, I sent lots and lots of messages. It's hard to get attention on a dating site, but I was surprised at how little I got in the way of responses. I really did send message after message, on a daily basis to lots of women. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive, so I'm baffled as to what I've done wrong. Suffice it to say that women don't get this sort of treatment, I think. The job they have is making themselves pretty and then responding to the messages they get. I suppose they ha
ve to watch their figure, exercise, and dress well, which all involve a lot of effort, but as a man, you have to actually put yourself forwards and risk rejection. To be presentable, AND to get someone's attention through your personality. That's a very different kettle of fish. To the victor, the spoils, I suppose. While it might seem manifestly unfair, it does mean that if you work hard, and make the most of what you have, you will get something.
I did do a thing before where I set up a make believe profile of a woman, and I was bombarded with messages within seconds. they continued for over an hour before my profile was cancelled by the site, but it shocked me as to how many messages I was getting. Granted it was of an uncommonly attractive woman, but nevertheless, it was a shock.
After having read countless articles in the Guardian that try to suggest that we're all the same, the reality is that dating for women and men are radically different experiences. And despite all my liberal inclinations, this is what my own human experience as a person has taught me. IT's what I've seen with my eyes and ears, and time on this planet. I guess we all have to play the cards we are dealt rather than wish for different cards, and that means getting out there and making the most of what I have, however I find it.
I think I'll shortly be adding myself to sites like OK Cupid and Tinder to see what I can cook up, as well as reguarly messsaging and getting more pictures done. I haven't given in on online dating yet, I am going to give it my all and we shall see what happens. Wish me luck.