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More Thoughts From The Verge

March 23, 2015

hi all. It's me again. In the interim, I've been away, and got myself online messaging, lots of women, and developing my online profile. Going to the gym, and generally getting myself together. One of the things I did was to reword my profile, and really get the language right. Show that I am fun, friendly, and positive, with a life of my own, and lots of things going on. 

From my music hobbies, to travelling, horseriding, socialising with my buddies, and playing football,, going to the gym, I detailed it all and laid it out there. I also took the time to take and upload some decent pictures which showed this clearly so that people can see for themselves. The pictures took ages, but I am pleased with the results.

After doing all that, I sent lots and lots of messages. It's hard to get attention on a dating site, but I was surprised at how little I got in the way of responses. I really did send message after message, on a daily basis to lots of women. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive, so I'm baffled as to what I've done wrong. Suffice it to say that women don't get this sort of treatment, I think. The job they have is making themselves pretty and then responding to the messages they get. I suppose they ha

ve to watch their figure, exercise, and dress well, which all involve a lot of effort, but as a man, you have to actually put yourself forwards and risk rejection. To be presentable, AND to get someone's attention through your personality. That's a very different kettle of fish.  To the victor, the spoils, I suppose. While it might seem manifestly unfair, it does mean that if you work hard, and make the most of what you have, you will get something.

I did do a thing before where I set up a make believe profile of a woman, and I was bombarded with messages within seconds. they continued for over an hour before my profile was cancelled by the site, but it shocked me as to how many messages I was getting. Granted it was of an uncommonly attractive woman, but nevertheless, it was a shock.

After having read countless articles in the Guardian that try to suggest that we're all the same, the reality is that dating for women and men are radically different experiences. And despite all my liberal inclinations, this is what my own human experience as a person has taught me. IT's what I've seen with my eyes and ears, and time on this planet. I guess we all have to play the cards we are dealt rather than wish for different cards, and that means getting out there and making the most of what I have, however I find it.

I think I'll shortly be adding myself to sites like OK Cupid and Tinder to see what I can cook up, as well as reguarly messsaging and getting more pictures done.  I haven't given in on online dating yet, I am going to give it my all and we shall see what happens. Wish me luck.

Fascinated With This Dating Dilemma....

March 9, 2015

I was just reading the paper the other day, and found myself fascinated with this guy's dating dilemma, and wanted to share it. He seemed like a nice enough guy who couldn't get himself a girlfriend. What was fascinating was the variety of opinions of those below the line, which varied from supportive to a bit mean. I guess after having been single for so long he's going to find it hard to make connections with people, and being in a male only work environment isn't going to help him connect with members of the opposite sex. 

I guess my best advice for someone like that would be for them to get out there and get to something like, which organises cool events where like minded people can join in with all kinds of activities like walking, book clubs, or just partying. It's a big step up from artificial speed dating events which can be a bit forced and unnatural. He also sounds like he does have friends who are both male and female, which is a good thing, I think. He just needs to get himself out there, and start making polite enquiries amongst his friends. Going out to parties, and non pressure environments where people get together are probably a good idea for someone like that.

I also personally think going to the gym and getting into shape, as well as dressing well can't do him any harm. Making an attempt to get out there, and meet as many women as possible would also do good. Bookstores, cafes, parks, malls, anywhere is good. Striking up conversations isn't that hard, particularly if it's non-confrontational. I always suspect women can tell if you're a hit with the ladies, and this means that those with wifes and girlfriends get more attention that those who are single. Counter intuitive, but there you go. Meeting a nice girl shouldn't be hard for a nice chap like this guy, but perhaps with a bit of persistence and effort, he can get there.


Being Called A Creep Is Not Very Helpful

March 4, 2015

I couldn't help but notice a bitch Comment Is Free post by an American author in today's Guardian. It got me annoyed, as it targeted older men who are attracted to younger women, and called them 'Creeps', using Tinder. 

You see, Tinder is introducing this policy of charging older users, and Jess Zimmerman reckons they need to exclude 'creeps' instead of older people.. Yes, it's totally clickbait, and I fell for it. Still, it's sad that targeting men as being "creeps" is fair game. The article talks about how women experience harassment online, particularly when they are selective. I guess the thing that annoys me is that men have it hard too. We experience rejection, something that women don't have to, not in the same way. Men have to make the approach, or sit alone and die, basically. Women get to reject, they get that freedom. They have to do their best to look good, or whatever, but in the end it's the man who has to do the running and risk the rejection. And that's hard, upsetting work. There's no acknowledgement of how upsetting or difficult that is, in this article. I guess it comes from the perspective that man are the dominant group in society, so therefore they have it all.

But I don't buy that. It's not a binary thing. Men don't get all the advantages, and women don't get all the disadvantages. Gender relations are a lot more complicated than that, and when it comes to dating, women typically hold all the cards. That's how I feel, anyway. I'm sure women don't feel that way, that empowered, but they do have the power to accept or reject a man. It's not like women are supposed or expected to approach men. They don't HAVE to. They can, but it's a bonus. If a man never offers himself to a woman or approaches one, at work, socially, or wherever, he will never have sex, or find a partner. 

If a woman minds her own business, she will get "offers" from men. Some of them may be unwanted, but at least they are offers. I suppose no one has it easy, but there are men out there dying of loneliness, in some cases, literally. It's not something that is written about enough. I guess men end up getting judged by their worst behaviour, certainly by papers like the Guardian. I think it was summed up by one BTL user, who said "Men intent on hooking-up through tinder: creeps. Women intent of hooking-up through tinder: sexually liberated.".Yes, it's manifestly unfair, but that's how it is. Unless you're Drake, and you're straight pimpin', of course!. 

You Gotta Pick Up....You Gotta Do It....

March 2, 2015


So, I finally decided to dive into the world of dating hot girls by doing the brave thing and going online to find somewhere that would allow me to connect with them. After doing some research into pickup methods by the likes of David Deangelo, and Real Social Dynamics, who caused a real stir in Australia recently, I decided to start with online dating.

My thinking was that chances of public humiliation were low. It's taken me a great deal of time and effort to push and push myself to do it? What am I afraid of? Not getting what I want, not being any good at it. Getting what I want and being dissatisfied or unhappy. Or Of being happy. A thousand things. Of course, looking like a fool in public, that's a big one.

Anyway, I finally got involved and did what I needed to do. Registered with a bunch of online dating sites here in Melbourne. The obvious big ones like Tinder, OKCupid, Plenty Of Fish, etc., and some smaller ones too. Surprisingly, it was this cool site that gave me some of my biggest successes, in terms of making contact and getting conversations going. 

It took some effort. My first attempt at a profile was a disaster, and I kept coming off as corny, then desperate, and then too aloof, with each different iteration of the writing. Girls don't have this trouble, all they have do to is put on makeup and look pretty, then they get a million messages and lots of attention. Being a guy,'s harder.

Anyway, jealousy aside, I did my best to work and work and work on my profile. The images were the main thing I found. Yes, even women are shallow. I think that's the problem with these sites, it reduces you to some picture and a profile, and a person's charm or personality doesn't really come across. And that, for an average looking guy like me, is the only thing close to an ace card or an advantage that I've got.

So I got some pictures done. Selfies sucked, they look bad. So I got a cradle for my camera, so I could take pictures without assistance, and tried on various outfits, and set it up to take photos of me. Experimenting with various outfits, hairstyles, backgrounds,etc,until I got a nice piccie going.

I started getting messages from fat, ugly girls, but to be honest, that's not what I was going for. Not really my thing. I wanted hot girls. I mean HOT girls. 

To date, I've managed to start chatting to girls of the calibre that I'm interested in, and got them to giggle and some some basic level of interest. We shall see how things develop. It was such a thrill when it first started to happen. But it didn't "stick". I didn't retain the interest of these girls. They must get bombarded with millions of messages every single day. The game is really rigged in their favour. I suppose unless you're exceptionally handsome or a rock star or a millionaire or whatever, it's harder for a guy to stand out. Anyway, I can't let that get me down. I will keep plugging away, and see how things go. I promise to keep you posted.







Saying Hello Is The Hardest Thing To Do

December 8, 2014

I have been putting doing this blog for ages. I keep letting a few months pass, and then putting it off. and letting a few more months pass, and putting it off a bit more.

Finally I have decided to go online and get started, so here I am.

This blog is the work of many years of experience, trial and error as I have developed my skills. From being a fresh faced boy who didn't have much luck with the ladies, to a fully formed pimp who's beating them off with a stick, I have taken a great deal of time and effort to real the moment I am in right now. And I can only recommend to you the things that will make the change for you. It's up to you to take action.

But here is where you will find the various tips, from dieting, to structuring conversations, to dressing, to getting physical.

The best way to begin is through action. Taking action now. That's the key. Do it today, while you can. That means pushing through your own inertia, and tendency not to do things, and MAKING yourself  do it. Make yourself go online to dating sites, and make yourself go out and approach people.

Getting them to take an interest is part science and part art. It's all effort. Dont believe people when they say you just need to let things "happen". Letting things happen is what leaves people disappointed, and frustrated. Don't put your fate into the hands of random circumstance. Take it into your hands. decide what you want. Whether it's a man or woman, young or old. Tall or short. A professional or a hipster. How are you going to get that person in your life? Where are you going to meet them? How can you set up your life to attract them naturally?

These are the kinds of questions you will need to ask. And you will need to then take action on them. That's how it works. So, listen to my advice. Check my blog regularly, and you'll be dating in no time..

I shall do my best to log in and keep posting. So thank you for your support and keep encouraging me, I shall do my best to fulfil your expectations.